Special Needs Children
What About the Divorce Rate Data?
Our review of the research reveals that the divorce rate for parents with Special Needs children varies widely depending on multiple variables involving the child, the cause, the parents themselves, and it is powerfully affected by the presence of older children in the family. Some Special Needs family groups do have higher divorce rates than averages, but many are in fact lower, depending on these variables.
As research advances, and as we learn more about the subtle differences among the various issues Special Needs children and parents face, our treatment of those having Special Needs and other interventions likely will become more effective. There is no reason from the data to concede that parents of children with Special Needs should divorce.
Setting the statics aside it is true that parents of Special Need children, like parents of children who do not have Special Needs, carry into the divorce equation hopes and dreams for the child’s future. They also sometimes carry their most personal and emotionally charged concerns. But these situations are particularly suitable for mediation. Both parents share common worries about their child’s current and future needs, and their incentive to cooperate is clear.
Help is available in the areas of:
- Educational choices
- Lifetime employment
- A safe lifetime living environment
- Legal issues
- Access to health care
- Access to government benefits
- Access to social groups and fun
- Management of finances
Priscilla Johnson has a Master of Arts degree in clinical psychology/mental health counseling. Priscilla has extensive experience in helping individuals with special needs, as well as families. In addition to her experience in couples and family counseling, Priscilla has worked in a variety of ways with individuals with special needs, including assisting in securing employment, engaging in social groups/activities for enjoyment and in life-skill development.
Jim Long and Philip McDowell are mediators at Heartland Family Mediators. Jim’s corporate experience in the financial services industry positions him as an excellent resource in helping people navigate the complexities of divorce. Philip McDowell is an attorney in private practice. Philip can collaborate with experienced legal professionals in crafting strategies for the long-term safety, care and housing needs of the special child as well as the preparation of necessary legal documents. He also can help parents explore government services that can help them find peace knowing the needs of the special-needs child will not be met at the expense of their siblings.
So where do you go from here?
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